The pursuit of a healthy marriage is a great thing. However, it seems like many of us “pursue” other things that do not always benefit our marriages.
Regardless of your belief in God, I would challenge everyone to take a look at this article by a pastor I greatly respect. He discusses what the purpose of marriage is from a Biblical perspective. You may discover that you have been frustrated in your marriage because you have been pursuing stuff not core to what God intended.
Give it a browse and let me know what you think!
http://brandonacox.com/family/gods-five-purposes-marriage/